In writing (raising children), James Dobson quoted the following pages of the book, Joseph Nicolosi prevention of homosexuality: A Guide to the parents and now our part, we move it into Arabic to make the fathers and mothers in our country. Joseph Nicolosi says that there are a number of previous manifestations of the emergence of homosexuality in children which can be observed and identified very early in the life of the child. Most of these features are under the classification of the so-called habits of the opposite sex Cross gender behavior, typical of the presence of a disorder of sexual identity of the child. These signs are:
1. Frequent by the child / child of the desire to belong to the opposite sex.
2. Preference for boys to wear girls clothes and a preference for girls to wear boys clothes.
3. Continued strong preference of the roles of the opposite sex to play with regard to representativeness. In other words, the boys play the roles of women and girls the roles of masculinity in the drama, they Belaha (the game of "home" for example).
4. Strong desire to play a game of choice for the opposite sex. He was playing for example, boys and girls bride guns and cars.
5. Strong preference to play with peers of the opposite sex instead of the same sex.
Behavior begins to wear opposite sex clothing Cross Dressing in the previous years of school, specifically in the age between the second and fourth. Should not worry when that happens to wear the clothes of the opposite sex a few different times, but when repeated on an ongoing basis and begin some disturbing habits, such as the use of cosmetics to the child for his mother and when children begin to avoid the neighbors and would prefer to be with his sister or with girlfriends from the girls and starts to pedophilia bride and her clothes and their homes. Then the child may begin to use a high voice and begin to speak in his body movements and it worked similar to the girls and start interest in lengthening the hair, and Iola Baliiharpat Alhleghan and others.
In fact, and the talk still Joseph Nicolosi, there is a relationship between the behavior of female children in the Children's Fund and the emergence of homosexuality, including in adulthood. Where children are at an early age a sense of discomfort with their peers than boys Devin and a sense of being different, or perhaps less than their peers of the same sex. But parents often do not understand these signs and waiting too late to strive for in the request for assistance for their children. One of the most important reasons for this is that no one had less to these parents the truth about the confusion in the cases of sexual identity, which may affect some children and parents on what to do in such cases.
Mama: "Am I Gay?"
Nicolosi complement directed his speech to the parents: You may be / feel concerned about your son or Bntek and their own sexual development. Perhaps one of your children comes to you saying: "Mama, Am I Gay?" Or "Papa, I am often bilateral nationality." Might find in the gay pornography wheel or your son or Bntek discovered that they have entered the gay sites on the Internet. Might find / Tagdin notes written by the thoughts or emotional feelings towards the same sex. Most importantly, I want to say to such parents that there is no such thing as a "child like me" or "teenager, like me," but if such cases were left untreated, about 75% of which will become a homosexual or dual nationality.
It is important to say here, and the talk is still the most important healers Joseph Nicolosi of homosexuality in the world, most of my gay did not show clear signs of female during childhood, but most of them were showing signs of "lack of masculinity" that is, they were separated from boys Ogarnhm and feel the pain of rejection from them. It was the separation from the boys appear in multiple images, such as lack of interest in the sport or the negative back and not take the lack of desire to play games with violence or engaging with other children. Some of them had the personal qualities were often considered attractive, such as: intelligent, sensitive, artistic inclinations, who was an early (which is a female personality girls mature mentally before boys) in the area of relations, speech, and others. These qualities were also contribute to stray from their peers of the same sex and thus to distort or delay the growth of their male identity.
Because these children did not show signs of wear feminine clothing, such as women or gait, or manner in which to talk like women, not their fathers or their mothers are aware that there was a problem, and therefore did not exert any effort in treatment.
But we must not confuse matters, and the talk still Nicolosi, it is possible that the child is sensitive and a good artist and a social or thin and also remains Girija. There is no reason to prevent children from being so for fear of homosexuality. In my opinion (and in my opinion Metzad number of researchers) that the father plays a key role in the development of the qualities of masculinity with his son. The most important and the father of the mother in this case mothers Tsnan children or parents Faisnon men.
In a very early age (a year and a half to three years) the child decides to be internally separate entity and choose whether he wanted to be like as a mother or a father. And also paid the child genes, hormones to be male "physical" relationship driven by the father of autism as a boy "psychological." When it comes to sexual orientation (whether of the same sex or opposite sex, psychological factors play a major role).
Therefore, the father's role is to emphasize the masculinity of his son and help him be accepted through the acceptance of masculinity in the father and a good relationship with him. This occurs through the play the father with his son male violent games played on different women, or to take with him to Isthama together. At that time, the young child is aware that his body resembles the body of his father and that he should choose to "psychologically" to be like his father.
Many loving parents to their children have unwittingly failed in the work of such a relationship or association with their children, perhaps because of differences in personalities, or perhaps preoccupation of the parents work, or perhaps because of the weakness of the male sex of children, making the development of masculinity, including the time needed for a long and strenuous effort his parents could not .
The mother also plays an important role and its role is to retreat a bit and allow the child to "go" with his father to the world of men. May be many times the mother is in control, or willing to have the child and made it "her spoiled little" Mom's little boy and when he meets this concern with the negative or the father or the lack of consensus in personality between father and mother and the child fails to make this association with his father and thus fails to confirm Zkorth .
Some mothers also tend to discipline their children more than necessary to make everything forbidden. Do not raise your voice! Not to play the violent toys! Does not object! Be obedient! Valzkorp on the courage and bravery that may have killed her that excessive discipline.
Sometimes used mothers of male children for the love and attention they do not receive from their husbands. Or at least Evhellen in helping their children to psychological independence, and reliability Istzlmn relations with their children. Sometimes also prevent mothers from their children mixing with their parents (especially if the mother's poor relationship with father). This may occur in the form of "do not hold the Pope," "Papa is tired!" "If you want to ask me something," and of course for each child, the mother easier, the mother is the spring out of compassion and unconditional acceptance for the sons and daughters.
I say once again, and the talk of Nicolosi, that many of the boys this happen to them and they are not affected and even become Girien, but for the vulnerable children at risk of masculinity (GM) of the fungible, they affected more than others from the disruption of the relationship the father
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And lastly I like to introduce to you the point of view of homosexuality in Freud:
Freud is that homosexuality is a stage of sexual development of human beings, some transit heterosexual, while others will stop and become gay. But Freud was not homosexuality is a big problem or disease should be treated. In his speech, Freud and the year 1935 the American mother of a young man like me, Freud wrote the following:
"Of course, homosexuality is not an advantage, but it should not be ashamed of it, nor is it a sin or an order would reduce the rights. Can not consider homosexual disease, but we consider it a form of sexual activity is caused by a halt in the sexual development. A lot of people respected in the the old and the modern world, both were gay, such as Plato, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci and others. It is unfair to the great Ndthd gay gay Fadthad crime and also very harsh. "
